Divorce Ring
No, it’s not a gang of organized criminals giving fly-by-night divorces in Mexico, it’s a ring. A ring you wear on your finger. A ring in opposition to a wedding ring or an engagement ring. Jewelry to celebrate and signify the end of marriage.
There’s a letter to Dear Abby from a woman who bought such a ring at a pawn shop. The enterprising shop owner just had to ask her if she wanted such a ring when she pawned her wedding jewelry. Maybe it’s not just jewelry stores capitalizing on people’s personal problems. Maybe a ring to signify your divorce is a helpful thing in getting a person over the pain of seperation.
I can see a whole new custom starting. Buying jewelry to signify any and all occasions. This is my first date ring. This is my learning to drive necklace. Here’s my graduation from clown school bracelet. Seriously, people do not wear enough jewelry. DeBeers would sell a lot more diamonds if people started a cultural tradition that diamonds should be worn by anyone who manages to live fifty years.
I looked for information on men’s divorce rings. Apparently, this accoutrement is not being marketed to men yet. Jewelry and fashion trends always seem to start with women. I’m sure if we give it time there will be plenty of rings for everyone. If you feel you need jewelry to celebrate the end of your marriage, that’s fine. In a way it seems like a consolation prize. With the right marketing, however, anything is possible.
I identified with this article because when I took my wedding rings off, I felt somehow naked. I had never worn other rings much because I didn’t like the competition with my wedding set. So after the separation I looked around and found myself a gorgeous cushion cut sapphire ring that I called my “singlehood ring.” I didn’t want to be divorced and I don’t see it as a celebration, but other’s circumstances might make them feel that way. For me it was simply a way to take away the empty ring finger syndrome and wear a fabulous piece of jewelry at the same time. People comment on it all the time and wearing it makes me happy.
I LOVE the idea! I have such a ring. I consider mine a symbol of freedome from a abusive relationship — a “Victory,” “Delivered” or “Salvation” ring. Anything sounds better than got-that-Bible-toting-lying-cheating-abusing-hypocrite-outta-my-hair-for-good ring.
For women who might want to date after divorce, this is a bad idea.
Many of us guys get confused about which finger or hand and just assume any ring might be an engagement/wedding ring - and real guys don’t approach some other guys wife.
i just love the humor behind the divorce ring idea. :’